Daddy’s Boy

On adoption day Finn was able to tolerate both myself and Kyle. The last two days he has definitely showed a preference for Kyle. He will barely allow me to hold him, and when “Baba” leaves the room he cries until Kyle returns. Sound familiar? Some of you know that Eliza was that way with me. Kyle is enjoying the benefits of being the life-line. Finn is very affectionate and cuddly. He rests his head on us, gives kisses (even to me), and lets us comfort him when he is sad or scared.


He is such fun. He learned a new word from his sister…”no”. He uses it appropriately and is very convincing. He found his voice today and shared lots of babble with us. His favorite word to say is “baba” (mandarin for daddy). He says “more, mama, jie jie (sister), bye-bye”…crazy cute. He is able to take his shirt and shoes off. I handed him a tooth brush and he knew exactly what to do. He colored with markers today…until he tasted the pink one.

Eliza is not used to the energy Finn adds to the family mix. He is much more active and curious than she is…more assertive too. Many times today she requested that I not look at Finn, and give all my attention to her. Hmmmm? I suspect the real adjustment will be when we get home and Finn touches everything. He is already demonstrating an ability to open drawers, doors, markers (yikes)…he knows no boundaries. The good news is he has been trained to clean up after himself and he does.

Eliza is really doing well. She has been trying to hug Finn and play the way she knows how to play. She’ll figure it out. Her feelings are a little tender, but generally she has seemed to enjoy this.

We made a quick visit to Finnian’s orphanage today. We were not allowed to go in and only stood outside to take pictures for a few minutes. It is a new building and has only been open for about a month. He did not seem to recognize the place. Interesting since he already knows where our hotel room is and points at the door when we arrive. He also did not pay attention to the nanny lady who took us to the orphanage, despite her efforts. She told us (with other families present) that Pu Qing had been a favorite of his care-givers. No wonder to us.